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Why do some women always have men pursuing them, no matter what
their age? I have a friend who is 74 who continually has
interesting successful men asking her out. When I grow up, I want
to be like her. She has sparkle. She has charm. She is a man
magnet.
Recently, I asked a popular man magnet what some of
her strategies were for attracting men, and research substantiates
many of her points. Here are five secret tips to help you attract
the man you want:
* Stand in the middle of the room.
Whenever you go to a party, try standing in the
center of the room. (Don't hunch your shoulders, slouch, or wear a
pair of shoes that hurt your feet so much you can't stand to
stand.) Move around a little, talk with people near you, but if
you want to be in a position to choose who you want to meet, never
sit down. Stand smack dab in the middle of the crowd. When you see
someone interesting, move near them--gracefully-- and start a
conversation.
* Stand at the corners of the bar.
If you are at a bar, pub, or nightclub, staying at
the corners of the bar is a good position. It's easier to meet
people there. Bartenders tend to talk to the people at the corners
also. The worst place to be seen is hanging out near the wall or
sitting at a table or booth with other people. You are more
difficult to approach if you are in a huddle with others. Go
places with friends, but break away from them periodically and
talk to people on your own.
* Look your best.
This may sound too obvious, but you never know
where or when you are going to meet someone. Never go out of the
house without looking your best. Even if you are headed to the gym
or a run around the block, put on some lipstick and comb your
hair. Know what colors you look good in, and wear attractive
clothes in your best shades. Men are attracted to pink-peach. That
color is flattering to most skin tones. People are also attracted
to you when you are wearing the color(s) of your eyes. (You have
multiple colors in your eyes--choose clothes that include one of
those colors.)
* Be aware of your body language.
Body language is everything. Smile a lot, look
people in the eyes, and when you see someone you are interested
in, tilt your head, drop your eyes, and then look back at him.
This may sound contrived, but it helps to know what subliminal
messages are being sent by your actions. Apparently, giving your
hair a slight flip is also an attraction signal, as well as
stroking the inside of your arm or your neck. If a man is standing
across the room, this is one way to let him know that you would be
interested in talking to him.
* What not to do.
Attractive women know not to: talk about themselves
non-stop, fold their arms, chew gum, pick at their nails, jiggle
their foot, or crunch ice. All of this behavior suggests anxiety,
frustration, or poor manners. Also--don't talk about your Ex. That
is a major turn off.
When you go out and see attractive single men you
want to meet, practice the above five secrets. Being a man magnet
simply means that you are in control of the outcome of your
evening, your week, and your life. Enjoy the adventure!
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